The awareness and understanding of what are masking and fawning has really grown over the past decade or so, and although this is ultimately a good thing, it can get a little bit overcomplicated and overwhelming for those who are new to the concept when they are met with an avalanche of new research, controversial opinions, and people arguing via Facebook pages!

SO! We have put together a short and simple basic guide to Masking and Fawning. 

What is Masking?

Masking is a form of ‘social camouflage’ where a person changes their behaviour to fit in with certain people around them in order to feel accepted and avoid judgement. 

Signs of Masking

• Copying behaviours of people around them.
• Hiding personal interests and pretending to be interested in what everyone else is interested in. 
• Practicing social interactions ahead of time.
• Feeling exhausted after socialising.
• Suppressing emotions.

What is Fawning?

Fawning, also know as ‘people pleasing’,  is a response to trauma or anxiety where someone excessively prioritises the needs of others to avoid conflict or ensure their safety.

Signs of Fawning

• Constantly seeking approval.
• Constantly seeking validation from others.
• Prioritising the needs of others’ without considering the personal cost.
• Avoiding conflict or uncomfortable situations by suppressing personal opinions and feelings.
• Finding it difficult to say “no” and experiencing the feeling of guilt when trying to set boundaries.

What is The Impact of Masking and Fawning?

Masking and Fawning can lead to:

• Heightened stress levels.
• Negative impact on mental health.
• Anxiety.
• Depression.
• Burnout.
• Loss of identity.
• Difficulties maintaining boundaries.
• Difficulties maintaining healthy relationships. 

How can we support those who Mask and Fawn?

• Educate ourselves further on why people masking and fawn and what can trigger it. 
• Provide a safe space that is judgement free.
• Validate people’s feelings.
• Be patient, kind, and calm. Unmasking is a process that takes time.
• Encourage seeking professional help, such as therapy. 
• Encourage self-compassion.